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Notch potential?

Clawson says,

I went to frontpage last weekend with some friends and sort of became a rolling blackout. I remember bits and pieces but not details or faces, more like snippets of conversation.

I met a couple girls and we talked and had some drinks and my friend and I started to go back to their place but they live in a place with lots of security and I have to sign in to get in and it’s a hassle (I know because I used to live there - the UCDC center). So instead I get a cab and drag my buddy away and leave. The next afternoon I get a text that says “who are you.” I don’t know who “jenn” is so I text back “hi, who are you?” Nothing happens.

But last night was looking in my phone book and saw “jenn” for some reason I assumed it was a girl that I had met at frontpage that night so I texted her “do you remember meeting me last weekend, I don’t think you do.”

She calls me back at 2 AM that night and I didn’t pick up. I was roused from a heavy slumber. She leaves a message, “call me back.”

I texted her back “sorry I’m too tired to talk I’m sleeping, talk to you tomorrow”

She called me back again and I didn’t pick up because I knew she was out and drunk at this hour and I was not in that mode. Her message said, “That’s okay, we’re cool” or something to that effect.

I text her and tell her I would be incoherent because i’m so tired.

she texts me, “you hate us.”

I text her, “lies.”

I passed out and woke up with a text that says, “bullshit.”

So I don’t know if you can make any sense of this. My current plan is to give
“jenn” a call this weekend and meet up sometime at some bar.

Basically, is this notch potential?

DCB says,

I like your game. Here is a girl who is trying to get in touch with you and you say you are tired. It says all the right things without having to actually say much at all.

Not only does this girl remember you, but she is very interested in banging you. But judging from her text message games, you are going to have to go about it in an indirect, spontaneous way, as opposed to the more normal ‘call, plan, and have drinks’ dating system. Your idea of meeting her out is good, but you need to start thinking of logistics. How are you going to isolate her? How are you going to deal with the inevitable cockblock? Do you have a way of getting her back to your place? At this point in the game, it becomes mostly about logistics and little about macking, for she has already made up her mind on having sex with you.

Personally, I think text message is something fun you do to a girl you already banged, not one you are trying to bang. It takes too long to make things work and gives her a very easy out when you try to take it to the next level.

Kathryn says,

I think there is hook-up potential as well. (I refuse, however, to assume the lady would give you the notch on the first try, as should you.) A lady interested in keeping “hand” and/or her dignity usually responds to you in kind: you text, she texts; you call, she calls. Instead, Jenn is calling after you text, meaning she is willing to put in more effort than you are. She’s also calling you late at night when she’s drunk, another sign you’re on her mind for something less formal than a dinner date. You can definitely call her for the meet-out this weekend, and I guarantee she’ll do everything she can to show up, probably drunk. DCB has already outlined what steps to take from there.

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19 Comments »

Lord. The sexual tension between Kathryn and DCB is downright distracting. Get a room, you two!

Comment by Lonnie Bruner on 01/27/06.



Clawson ~ If she is going out of her way to text you and you can both barely remember each other…then you might as well chalk it up to a hook up buddy.

Do you even remember what Jenn looks like? You said it as all a bit hazy…

Comment by AsianMistress on 01/27/06.



Lonnie - you’re so right. We’re totes Tony Micelli and Angela Bower. Maybe we’ll hook up in Season 6. Stay tuned.

Comment by Kathryn on 01/27/06.



The show always sucks after the hook up happens.. it kills the tension.

Comment by DCB on 01/27/06.



Thanks DCB and Kathryn. You guys have the ability to articulate what is swimming in my head. Although, Kathryn, sometimes I think you need to accept that sometimes a girl wants the notch even more than the guy.

Also, thanks for the quick turn around. I’ve already sent this to my friend who was there that night.

And no, I don’t remember what she looked like, but my buddy says she had a nice rack of lamb - which is probably why I allowed her to give me her number in the first place.

Comment by clawson on 01/27/06.



Kathryn,

I can see the letter now:

“Dear firstdatedc.com, I have a ‘friend’ who writes a blog with a guy she has a huge crush on …”

Have a good weekend, guys.

LB

Comment by Lonnie Bruner on 01/27/06.



“you hate us”

Is she Gollum?

Comment by rock creek rambler on 01/27/06.



Well, someone is going to get laid this weekend. Honestly, though, what kind of woman acts like this “Jenn”. Is she under 25?

Comment by Chase on 01/27/06.



Agree with Chase. This woman made me writhe in pain for her stupidity. She should have just mailed him her panties. It would have been easier. And less distracting to his sleep cycle.

Comment by Velvet on 01/27/06.



Clawson,

Regardless of what DCB says, you have absolutely no game. Who texts some random girl with “do you remember meeting me? I don’t think you do…” That is pussy shit. Are you going to rent “When Harry Met Sally”, get a box of bons bons and let her cry on your shoulder, only so you two can pass out cuddling together? What you should have said is something to the effect of “It was a pleasure meeting me the other night”. Take control of the situation. If you had done so, you would have already gotten the notch and you wouldn’t have to whine about it on some random message board…

Comment by ME on 01/27/06.



?It was a pleasure meeting me the other night?

LOL ARE YOU KIDDING!!

what a joke. you are probably a member of the CPMC

Comment by DCB on 01/27/06.



It seems like this claws fella is pretty smart and funny. you could do much better claws. I could definitely see you with a skeletor resembling blonde who gave a hander to the president of your fraternity.

Comment by Lloyd on 01/27/06.



LOL, DCB! OMG, CPMC??? LMAO!

Comment by ME on 01/27/06.



Kathryn, *PLEASE* honey do not cling on to your vapid belief that women do not enjoy sex. Nothing is wrong is putting out right away. Women like sex just as much as men do. This is coming from a 24 y/o ivy league educated women.

Comment by C on 01/27/06.



I never said women don’t enjoy sex. I said Clawson can’t assume Jenn will want to have sex the first time they hook up.

Good to see that ivy league education gave you such good reading comprehension skills, though, honey!

Comment by Kathryn on 01/27/06.



And spelling…

24 y/o ivy league educated womEn

Comment by AsianMistress on 01/27/06.



Eh, I think your advice is off base. This girl texts when she is drunk wanting sex and this guy is always too tired. How lame. He’ll never hear from her again, she’s already had sex with a funny guy who has some energy.

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