Comments on: How do I get him back? http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back "but seriously, when should i call?" Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:12:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: Ibid http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-479 Ibid Wed, 15 Mar 2006 14:32:40 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-479 DCB sounds like he's bases his life on weak sitcom plots. That might get you laid, but it will not deal with the real issues in the relationship. Remember, it's already failed twice. The only times I've ever heard of a couple getting back together was after several years apart, preferably in different cities. In that time both people were able to grow, change, and learn some new jokes. I've had that one person I just couldn't get over but she just wasn't interested. 6 years I spent around that woman. I even helped her get a job where I worked knowing that I was setting myself up for another 2 years of torment. I've councelled a few people who have broken up with someone and were willing to move heaven and earth and spend time in a US Military prison camp to get that person back. I have a pretty good idea where you're coming from. It sucks. Ages of torment. I'll tell you, he doesn't miss you. He broke up with you because he just didn't feel that way about you. Or maybe he just said that because he wanted to date around. In any case you're the one stuck, not him. You might get him back for a night or a week or even a month if you've been doing your Kegel exercises, but he will dump you again and all the hurt will be fresh again. A better question is how do you get over him? Hook him up with another woman. This doesn't work for everyone, but it might work for you. If he starts seriously dating someone else that should pretty well kill any hope you have left. Hope is bad. Get rid of hope and you'll have an easier time moving on. One of you has to get a new job. If you're not willing to quit then you need to submit his resume to other job openings and hope he leaves. Consider moving. Make a clean break. New job, new city, new friends. The shake up should manage to wipe him from your mind - except for the occasional facial tick when you remember what you were willing to do for him. I'm told that men outnumber women 4 or 5 to 1 up in Alaska. Good luck DCB sounds like he’s bases his life on weak sitcom plots. That might get you laid, but it will not deal with the real issues in the relationship. Remember, it’s already failed twice.
The only times I’ve ever heard of a couple getting back together was after several years apart, preferably in different cities. In that time both people were able to grow, change, and learn some new jokes.

I’ve had that one person I just couldn’t get over but she just wasn’t interested. 6 years I spent around that woman. I even helped her get a job where I worked knowing that I was setting myself up for another 2 years of torment.
I’ve councelled a few people who have broken up with someone and were willing to move heaven and earth and spend time in a US Military prison camp to get that person back.
I have a pretty good idea where you’re coming from. It sucks. Ages of torment.

I’ll tell you, he doesn’t miss you. He broke up with you because he just didn’t feel that way about you. Or maybe he just said that because he wanted to date around. In any case you’re the one stuck, not him. You might get him back for a night or a week or even a month if you’ve been doing your Kegel exercises, but he will dump you again and all the hurt will be fresh again.

A better question is how do you get over him?
Hook him up with another woman. This doesn’t work for everyone, but it might work for you. If he starts seriously dating someone else that should pretty well kill any hope you have left. Hope is bad. Get rid of hope and you’ll have an easier time moving on.
One of you has to get a new job. If you’re not willing to quit then you need to submit his resume to other job openings and hope he leaves.
Consider moving. Make a clean break. New job, new city, new friends. The shake up should manage to wipe him from your mind - except for the occasional facial tick when you remember what you were willing to do for him. I’m told that men outnumber women 4 or 5 to 1 up in Alaska.

Good luck

]]> By: michelle http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-480 michelle Wed, 15 Mar 2006 14:35:02 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-480 The sad part is that you've "tried moving on" so you think your only alternative is to try and get him back. Things didn't work out the first or second time you guys were together, you need to move on. The sad part is that you’ve “tried moving on” so you think your only alternative is to try and get him back. Things didn’t work out the first or second time you guys were together, you need to move on.

]]> By: Stephen http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-482 Stephen Wed, 15 Mar 2006 15:02:50 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-482 If you were a guy, I'd say you're whipped. Why would you pine for a guy who doesn't want you, when there's plenty of men around who just might want you. DCB said it exactly right. This is by far the saddest post so far. If you were a guy, I’d say you’re whipped.

Why would you pine for a guy who doesn’t want you, when there’s plenty of men around who just might want you. DCB said it exactly right.

This is by far the saddest post so far.

]]> By: holiday http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-483 holiday Wed, 15 Mar 2006 15:53:02 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-483 It's called a break up, because it's broken. I made myself buy that stupid book, because I couldn't really seem to get over my ex. It's been over a year since we broke up. The other weekend I saw him with his new girlfriend, and immediately I was hurt, shocked, disappointed that there was no chance of us ever getting back together again. I made the inevitable comparison of myself to his new girlfriend. Is she smarter than me? prettier than me? funnier? Then I suddenly had this epiphany. Hating her or thinking that I'm better than her, doesn't make him like me any more. Ultimately, I don't think there is anything wrong with me. We just weren't a good fit. He realized it and it took me a longer time to recognize it. Take as much time as you need to get over him, but don't try to get back together with him. It's just a waste of time. It’s called a break up, because it’s broken. I made myself buy that stupid book, because I couldn’t really seem to get over my ex. It’s been over a year since we broke up. The other weekend I saw him with his new girlfriend, and immediately I was hurt, shocked, disappointed that there was no chance of us ever getting back together again. I made the inevitable comparison of myself to his new girlfriend. Is she smarter than me? prettier than me? funnier? Then I suddenly had this epiphany. Hating her or thinking that I’m better than her, doesn’t make him like me any more. Ultimately, I don’t think there is anything wrong with me. We just weren’t a good fit. He realized it and it took me a longer time to recognize it. Take as much time as you need to get over him, but don’t try to get back together with him. It’s just a waste of time.

]]> By: Matt http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-484 Matt Wed, 15 Mar 2006 16:58:34 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-484 "If you?re not willing to quit then you need to submit his resume to other job openings and hope he leaves." Don't do this. “If you?re not willing to quit then you need to submit his resume to other job openings and hope he leaves.”

Don’t do this.

]]> By: Chaco http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-485 Chaco Wed, 15 Mar 2006 17:39:11 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-485 The quickest way to get over someone is to have sex with someone new. Yes, maybe the sex will be an "empty one night stand", but having another person give you pleasure is a great way to realize there is happiness after the ex. The quickest way to get over someone is to have sex with someone new. Yes, maybe the sex will be an “empty one night stand”, but having another person give you pleasure is a great way to realize there is happiness after the ex.

]]> By: DCB http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-486 DCB Wed, 15 Mar 2006 18:13:14 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-486 Ibid you didn't take the time to read what I wrote carefully: <b>I don?t think that it is possible to solve the underlying problem with this broken relationship</b> Ibid you didn’t take the time to read what I wrote carefully:

I don?t think that it is possible to solve the underlying problem with this broken relationship

]]> By: DCRookie http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-487 DCRookie Wed, 15 Mar 2006 18:58:53 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-487 Ever see those movies where the hero's sidekick has taken a bullet or something and the hero does CPR for many minutes after his buddy is clearly dead? The hero is desperately doing chest compressions while his friends are like, "Man, he's dead...let him go. You did all you could." The hero raises his hands to the sky and says, "NOOOOOOOOOOO! Why God, WHY?" The hero then goes on to avenge his buddy's death by finding his killer, getting the girl, and cracking wise the whole time. You're currently trying unnecessary CPR on this relationship, and we are telling you to stop, because the relationship is dead. You need to realize this, scream and curse at God, and move on. Ever see those movies where the hero’s sidekick has taken a bullet or something and the hero does CPR for many minutes after his buddy is clearly dead? The hero is desperately doing chest compressions while his friends are like, “Man, he’s dead…let him go. You did all you could.” The hero raises his hands to the sky and says, “NOOOOOOOOOOO! Why God, WHY?” The hero then goes on to avenge his buddy’s death by finding his killer, getting the girl, and cracking wise the whole time.

You’re currently trying unnecessary CPR on this relationship, and we are telling you to stop, because the relationship is dead. You need to realize this, scream and curse at God, and move on.

]]> By: Heather http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-488 Heather Wed, 15 Mar 2006 19:13:38 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-488 DCB gave some sound advice. I know she doesn't want to hear move on but...seriously, move on. He doesn't "like you" like you. She's just tormenting herself and him with these weak tries at reconciliation. DCB gave some sound advice. I know she doesn’t want to hear move on but…seriously, move on. He doesn’t “like you” like you. She’s just tormenting herself and him with these weak tries at reconciliation.

]]> By: rock creek rambler http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-489 rock creek rambler Wed, 15 Mar 2006 19:51:32 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-489 "I would really love to get over him, and move on, be happy again, forget about him. But it?s just not happening." You've given up control of your own life. That's scary, and I don't even know you. It's time for therapy. “I would really love to get over him, and move on, be happy again, forget about him. But it?s just not happening.”

You’ve given up control of your own life. That’s scary, and I don’t even know you. It’s time for therapy.

]]> By: V http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-490 V Wed, 15 Mar 2006 21:00:09 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-490 DCB and K were both right on here. And, I don't believe that her that she can't move on. That's a choice--you can't just blame fate or some "he's my soul mate" bullshit--you need to admit that you need some help professional or whatever because you are incapable of doing it on your own. What makes me the saddest about this dilemma is so much of this girl's self-worth seems to be wrapped up in this guy who doesn't like her like that. It's clear she can only hear what she wants to hear, in fact, I wouldn't be surprised if she dismissed all this advice as us all "not understanding." Tough love, darlin, that?s what it?s going to take. DCB and K were both right on here. And, I don’t believe that her that she can’t move on. That’s a choice–you can’t just blame fate or some “he’s my soul mate” bullshit–you need to admit that you need some help professional or whatever because you are incapable of doing it on your own.

What makes me the saddest about this dilemma is so much of this girl’s self-worth seems to be wrapped up in this guy who doesn’t like her like that. It’s clear she can only hear what she wants to hear, in fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if she dismissed all this advice as us all “not understanding.” Tough love, darlin, that?s what it?s going to take.

]]> By: puzzled poster http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-491 puzzled poster Wed, 15 Mar 2006 21:04:36 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-491 Gloria Steinem is now filming a marathon double anal gang bang following this posting... You have single-handedly destroyed feminism, and any lingering sense of a woman's self-esteem: Congratulations!!! What is wrong with you- aside from the obvious issue that you are a fucking useless sniveling sack of vulva... You are so young- "moved to the same city after graduation" - and have absolutely no perspective on what else is out there. You should be dreaming of the fact that you are new in town and single; just as the guy did when he dumped your sorry-ass. You should be day dreaming of drunken hook-ups, dates, meeting interesting people who want to lick your asshole like tasty d-lite on a hot day, hanging out at Cafe Milano and selling your nubile body to a 68 year old financier from the World Bank for the night- you are missing it all baby...all because you have feelings for some dude who no longer wants to give you two in the pink and one in the stink. Overall, the quickest way to get over a man is to get under a new one- and in your case, you may need a good finger cuff situation with two guys to help matters blow over (no pun intended). Enjoy the fact that you are single. It is soon Spring, and everyone in DC will be getting sloppy at bars all across the city and pining for your attention. Who knows, maybe you will fall for another guy and he will share your penchance for the cleveland steamer, a love of the donkey punch, and enjoying the act of the glass bottom boat. It could be a match made in heaven, and to think... you could have missed it all... xoxo Gloria Steinem is now filming a marathon double anal gang bang following this posting… You have single-handedly destroyed feminism, and any lingering sense of a woman’s self-esteem: Congratulations!!! What is wrong with you- aside from the obvious issue that you are a fucking useless sniveling sack of vulva… You are so young- “moved to the same city after graduation” - and have absolutely no perspective on what else is out there. You should be dreaming of the fact that you are new in town and single; just as the guy did when he dumped your sorry-ass. You should be day dreaming of drunken hook-ups, dates, meeting interesting people who want to lick your asshole like tasty d-lite on a hot day, hanging out at Cafe Milano and selling your nubile body to a 68 year old financier from the World Bank for the night- you are missing it all baby…all because you have feelings for some dude who no longer wants to give you two in the pink and one in the stink.

Overall, the quickest way to get over a man is to get under a new one- and in your case, you may need a good finger cuff situation with two guys to help matters blow over (no pun intended). Enjoy the fact that you are single. It is soon Spring, and everyone in DC will be getting sloppy at bars all across the city and pining for your attention. Who knows, maybe you will fall for another guy and he will share your penchance for the cleveland steamer, a love of the donkey punch, and enjoying the act of the glass bottom boat. It could be a match made in heaven, and to think… you could have missed it all… xoxo

]]> By: Tom http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-493 Tom Thu, 16 Mar 2006 01:17:42 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-493 This post above might go down as one of the greats in the history of the site. "you are missing it all baby?all because you have feelings for some dude who no longer wants to give you two in the pink and one in the stink." It couldn't be said anymore eloquent then that. Everyone gets their heart broken once in life. It is one of the biggest emotional jobs the big guy pulls on you. It's tough, you will always think of him, but the best way to get over anyone is to find someone new. Get out there - get drunk -- and slop around with some guys. it will help. I have a feeling that this girl isn't that hot, that is why she is struggling so much. I really feel for people who are in this situation. It's really tough. This post above might go down as one of the greats in the history of the site.

“you are missing it all baby?all because you have feelings for some dude who no longer wants to give you two in the pink and one in the stink.”

It couldn’t be said anymore eloquent then that.

Everyone gets their heart broken once in life. It is one of the biggest emotional jobs the big guy pulls on you. It’s tough, you will always think of him, but the best way to get over anyone is to find someone new.

Get out there - get drunk — and slop around with some guys. it will help.

I have a feeling that this girl isn’t that hot, that is why she is struggling so much. I really feel for people who are in this situation. It’s really tough.

]]> By: Rob http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-494 Rob Thu, 16 Mar 2006 03:12:47 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-494 DCB you cool DCB you cool

]]> By: Olivia http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-761 Olivia Wed, 19 Apr 2006 16:27:06 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-761 I know it's not easy but you have to get over this guy and start living your life fully. Clingyness and desperation is not attractive. Besides, why would you want to be with someone who wasn't crazy about you? You deserve much more than he can offer to you and you have to start believing that. Any contact you would have right now would only be feeding in to his EGO and diminishing yours. He broke up with you. Let him live with the consequences of his decision. Don't be a doormat. Actions speak so much louder than words and his clearly indicate that he is done with you. I hope you decide to cut off ALL contact with this dude and choose to love yourself first. Good luck. I know it’s not easy but you have to get over this guy and start living your life fully. Clingyness and desperation is not attractive. Besides, why would you want to be with someone who wasn’t crazy about you? You deserve much more than he can offer to you and you have to start believing that. Any contact you would have right now would only be feeding in to his EGO and diminishing yours. He broke up with you. Let him live with the consequences of his decision. Don’t be a doormat. Actions speak so much louder than words and his clearly indicate that he is done with you. I hope you decide to cut off ALL contact with this dude and choose to love yourself first. Good luck.

]]> By: Alicia http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-4658 Alicia Wed, 09 Aug 2006 04:35:42 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/03/how-do-i-get-him-back#comment-4658 Dude, I totally know what you're going through.. it's tough and i wish i could get my ex back too. I know where i should be compared to where im actually at.. and i'm sure you know that too.. but the hard part really is doing it.. all very well saying 'dude i'm over this pig headed wank' but showing everyone you are and most of all showing yourself are two completely different things. My advice (this will benefit us both) is to ask the world to stop for abit.. get off and when you are ready to get back on, your place will be waiting. Paitence and Time are a virtue. if you can seriously get through this, you can get through anything. I mean shit you live in a city with thousands of eligable men.. haha i live in a town with just over 20,000 people and beleive me the fish are dying! :P good luck!! you should really copy and paste some of these responses and stick them on your wall.. read them.. drum it into your head that you're better.. and you deserve better! Dude, I totally know what you’re going through.. it’s tough and i wish i could get my ex back too. I know where i should be compared to where im actually at.. and i’m sure you know that too.. but the hard part really is doing it.. all very well saying ‘dude i’m over this pig headed wank’ but showing everyone you are and most of all showing yourself are two completely different things. My advice (this will benefit us both) is to ask the world to stop for abit.. get off and when you are ready to get back on, your place will be waiting. Paitence and Time are a virtue. if you can seriously get through this, you can get through anything. I mean shit you live in a city with thousands of eligable men.. haha i live in a town with just over 20,000 people and beleive me the fish are dying! :P good luck!! you should really copy and paste some of these responses and stick them on your wall.. read them.. drum it into your head that you’re better.. and you deserve better!

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