Long distance letdown
Guy writes,
ok, guy meets girl about 6 months ago. girl is involved, but guy can tell she is interested, they exhange the occasional email, until girl leaves town for a couple of years for a work project. girl contacts guy 2 months ago, they email almost daily and talk regularly, although girl is 200 miles away. guy and girl go out when she’s in town, have a seemingly good first date, and girl goes back home to visit friends and family for a week. girl then gets dodgy, guy forces girls hand, and girl says she ran into an ex while out of town and they’ve decided to get back together. question - do you think she really is getting back w/the ex (who is across the country) or is that just a blow off line?
DCB says,
Sorry bro, you’ve been elimidated. She thought you were a real man, but then you got all desperate on her and now she’s fucking that sleazy Middle Eastern guy she met at the club. I can tell you are a desperate guy because you were actively pursuing poon that was 200 miles away. Every heard of this place called Rumors?
Kathryn says,
Not knowing anything about her, my guess is it was just a blow-off line.
Sometimes, when an attached girl acts interested in a guy, she is responding more to his interest and attention than she is exhibiting an actual, natural attraction to him. This was likely the case with your girl when everything started. When she contacted you a couple of months ago, she may have been feeling lonely either because she just broke up with someone or because she’d gone a while without really meeting anyone she found desirable. She remembered you liked her, and she reached out. Email and phone contact ensued, and you guys finally had an in-person date. After which she got “dodgy.” I’m guessing nothing sexual really happened on your date, because she probably found/remembered she wasn’t physically attracted to you. Then, you say you had to “force her hand” - so you backed her into a corner, and she grasped for an excuse, one that wouldn’t hurt your feelings because I’m sure she likes you as a person, and she came up with the ex excuse. I’m imagining a lot as you don’t provide a whole lot of details, but I’m pretty sure this is what went down on her side. I’m sorry. Let her go.
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