Comments on: One day stand http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand "but seriously, when should i call?" Wed, 08 Sep 2010 16:48:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: Ibid http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-640 Ibid Wed, 05 Apr 2006 13:40:33 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-640 > he didn?t ask for my number, and I didn?t give him mine. I don't see anywhere where you asked for his phone number. If a strange woman came in to town, jumped me, and left, I'd assume that it was a "what happens in Boston stays in Boston" situation. I'd have to assume that if I called her she'd resent it. I'd just be some casual dalliance that was intruding into her real life. If you're moving to Boston and you each still have the same friends you may bump each other again... and again and again and again in a variety of positions. But don't chase after him. If it just took a one night stand to get over your last boyfriend then I'd think another would help you get over this guy. Any volunteers? > he didn?t ask for my number, and I didn?t give him mine.

I don’t see anywhere where you asked for his phone number. If a strange woman came in to town, jumped me, and left, I’d assume that it was a “what happens in Boston stays in Boston” situation. I’d have to assume that if I called her she’d resent it. I’d just be some casual dalliance that was intruding into her real life.
If you’re moving to Boston and you each still have the same friends you may bump each other again… and again and again and again in a variety of positions. But don’t chase after him.
If it just took a one night stand to get over your last boyfriend then I’d think another would help you get over this guy.
Any volunteers?

]]> By: Chaco http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-641 Chaco Wed, 05 Apr 2006 16:05:47 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-641 It's not always true that men do not want to date women who put out on the first night. I personally find it an admirable quality in a woman and I always like to reward good behavior. I would definitely ask a girl out if I liked her personality, regardless of how far we got that first night. But if I knew she was leaving the city, then no, I might not ask for her number. So in your case, it may have been the the fact you were leaving, not the fact you had sex that made him not seek further contact. As for what to do now that you are moving to Boston, why not arrange an "accidental" meeting by scheming with your mutual friends to set it up? I don't understand Kathryn's caution. "Bump into him", chat him up, feel out the vibe, find out if he is single, and then act accordingly. Go for it, you have nothing to lose. It’s not always true that men do not want to date women who put out on the first night. I personally find it an admirable quality in a woman and I always like to reward good behavior. I would definitely ask a girl out if I liked her personality, regardless of how far we got that first night. But if I knew she was leaving the city, then no, I might not ask for her number.

So in your case, it may have been the the fact you were leaving, not the fact you had sex that made him not seek further contact. As for what to do now that you are moving to Boston, why not arrange an “accidental” meeting by scheming with your mutual friends to set it up? I don’t understand Kathryn’s caution. “Bump into him”, chat him up, feel out the vibe, find out if he is single, and then act accordingly. Go for it, you have nothing to lose.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-642 Anonymous Wed, 05 Apr 2006 17:19:34 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-642 Intersex? Intersex?

]]> By: dee cee http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-643 dee cee Wed, 05 Apr 2006 17:22:05 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-643 As a Swyer's Syndrome person, who should I date to be accepted by the Religious Right? As a Swyer’s Syndrome person, who should I date to be accepted by the Religious Right?

]]> By: Lisa http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-644 Lisa Wed, 05 Apr 2006 19:05:09 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-644 Thanks for putting this up and for the advice! Some clarification: I didn't fully get over my ex with this one night stand, but it helped. I didn't ask for his number because I've NEVER asked for a guy's number. Aside from this incident, I'm pretty shy and old-fashioned. I don't chase and guys always call me first, not the other way around. I guess maybe I should look into changing that? I just figured that if he didn't like me beyond sex for one night, he would have made up some lame excuse to kick me out. I'm pretty perceptive to clues. Eek. Thanks for putting this up and for the advice!
Some clarification: I didn’t fully get over my ex with this one night stand, but it helped. I didn’t ask for his number because I’ve NEVER asked for a guy’s number. Aside from this incident, I’m pretty shy and old-fashioned. I don’t chase and guys always call me first, not the other way around. I guess maybe I should look into changing that?
I just figured that if he didn’t like me beyond sex for one night, he would have made up some lame excuse to kick me out. I’m pretty perceptive to clues.
Eek.

]]> By: DC Cookie http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-645 DC Cookie Wed, 05 Apr 2006 20:50:01 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/04/one-day-stand#comment-645 My friend just married a guy she banged on the first encounter. However...he asked for her number when they parted and used it the very next day. My friend just married a guy she banged on the first encounter. However…he asked for her number when they parted and used it the very next day.

]]>