I tried the Match.com thing for a little while, but found - unsurprisingly - the options a little unappealing. I’ve grown tired of the bar scene as well.
I figure speed dating is probably little better than Internet dating, but I thought I’d seek your (and your readers) insight.
Thanks in advance.
DCB says,
While I’ve never tried speed dating, I think it’s an awesome idea because it condenses an entire night of going out into a half hour of high-impact conversations, something that is hard to achieve with club or bar hopping. My only concern is that the speed dating event will be full of genetic rejects who couldn’t cut it in the “normal” scene. There will most likely be one or two highly desirable individuals from each sex that everyone wants to bang.
Kathryn says,
I say… why not. It never hurts to be “out there” - you never know whom you’re going to meet, and who their friends/coworkers/acquaintances might be. My only caveat would be to temper your expectations - as in, keep them low. That way, any connection you make, whether romantic, friendly, professional, or otherwise, will be a nice surprise. Consider it smalltalk practice, maybe? Or an experiment in reading others’ body language and interest in you? I believe you find out at the end who has asked to contact you later, which I imagine is occasionally surprising. In other words, go for it, but think of it as a game-honing exercise above all.
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Yeah I’ve thought about it. But then I found out Hurry Date charges 30 bucks or something. I don’t know. Right now I can’t get myself to spend the cash when I can meet people for free.
A friend made go with her once. I tried not to laugh mostly, and then started offering tips to guys who were really bad at small talk (I’m a bitch like that). However, on the up side, there were some pretty attractive girls there. Not like crazy hot, but they seemed “nice and cute” and just looking for someone to hang out with. I think it is def worth a shot.
Small talk practice never hurts, and you’d probably spend that much money on food and drinks if you went out someplace else, right? I had a roommate a couple of years ago who married the guy she met at an 8-minute dating thing. They’re ridiculously perfect for each other, too.
Comment by Courtney on 04/26/06.
I am surprised at DCB’s charitable view of this. I would be amazed to find cute girls there, aren’t they all taken? But hey, you don’t know unless you try. Hint: ask questions that really reveal something about them: favorit vacation spots, favorit places they have lived, ideal jobs, what they are most passionate about. You’ll learn a lot about the girls and you’ll stand out from the guys that only ask the typical questions.
Comment by Chaco on 04/26/06.
I was once at a restaurant that had a mezzanine level (where I was) overlooking the bar (where they were having a speed-dating event). It was great - I literally had an opportunity to look over the participants’ shoulders and see what it was all about. Overwhelmingly, the women were way better-looking than the men. That’s not to say they weren’t all whiny or bitchy or whatever, but from 20 feet away, the deck looked pretty stacked.
Comment by Girl Anon on 04/26/06.
I think Kathryn and DCB should do one (the same one) and report back on the experience. Like a FFDC Investigative Report.
I hear its hit or miss. Shelling out 45 bucks for one of those? Nah. 10-15 bucks? Yeah I’d go for it.
Comment by nabeel on 04/26/06.
I did it about 4 years ago. I think it helps the confidence for most guys, because if you don’t act like a total tool box (which most guys do), then you would be surprised how many women will give you a chance.
Keep it simple and keep the questions typical and dumb.
Remember, it really doesn’t matter what you say as long as it isn’t sexual and stupid. The girl is picking you almost purely based on looks, unless you act like a gweeto or douche bag.
She is looking for a regular lay as much as your are.
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Not sure what kind of speed dating companies they have in your area, but absolutely, positively make sure they screen the candidates. I went to one speed dating event back in the day that featured 30 guys and girls who were all at least 6’s. That one cost me $50. I went to another one that was only $20 and the women were fairly high quality but the men - shit, they must have bribed some homeless guys with free food or something. It was awful. Like everything else, do your research and give it a shot!
Comment by DC Rookie on 04/27/06.
I didn’t know anyone even took speed dating seriously. Honestly, most attractive girls there go purely for something to laugh about with their friends. Generally, they get completely wasted and make a whole evening out of it. If you are even half way attractive and you are to meet someone you’d be interested in at speed dating, I don’t know that she’d even go out with you. She’d probably wonder what was wrong with you that brought you there in the first date. My suggestion- try something like It’s Just Lunch. Don’t know about those, but they seem a little less sketchy.
