Comments on: Sleepover time http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time "but seriously, when should i call?" Wed, 08 Sep 2010 16:07:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: Ibid http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9067 Ibid Wed, 27 Sep 2006 13:44:00 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9067 How fast to take things is something only you can decide. I think the best thing you could do would be to talk to her about your concerns. "We've been spending a lot of time together. WAIT! I'm not breaking up or asking for space. Don't think that for a moment. I love spending all this time with you. If anything I'm worried that you'll feel we're moving too fast and back off and everything will fall apart. The last thing I want is you getting sick of me because I'm always there. Just, you know, let me know if you start to feel smothered or feel that we're moving too fast. You won't hurt my feelings. Just be sure to let me know." How fast to take things is something only you can decide. I think the best thing you could do would be to talk to her about your concerns.

“We’ve been spending a lot of time together. WAIT! I’m not breaking up or asking for space. Don’t think that for a moment. I love spending all this time with you. If anything I’m worried that you’ll feel we’re moving too fast and back off and everything will fall apart. The last thing I want is you getting sick of me because I’m always there. Just, you know, let me know if you start to feel smothered or feel that we’re moving too fast. You won’t hurt my feelings. Just be sure to let me know.”

]]> By: Chaco http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9068 Chaco Wed, 27 Sep 2006 13:57:07 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9068 "... no seeing each other get dressed..." I actually think it's hot watching a girl get dressed. I call it a "reverse strip show". “… no seeing each other get dressed…”

I actually think it’s hot watching a girl get dressed. I call it a “reverse strip show”.

]]> By: FDDC http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9070 FDDC Wed, 27 Sep 2006 14:11:10 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9070 Ha, Chaco, yes, that CAN be hot. But most people don't do it gracefully. There's underwear tugging, bra hooking and twisting, etc. Much hotter to keep a little mystery at first, and just put on your clothes while the other person is in the bathroom. -Kathryn Ha, Chaco, yes, that CAN be hot. But most people don’t do it gracefully. There’s underwear tugging, bra hooking and twisting, etc. Much hotter to keep a little mystery at first, and just put on your clothes while the other person is in the bathroom.

-Kathryn

]]> By: Ibid http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9072 Ibid Wed, 27 Sep 2006 14:45:57 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9072 When dating someone, back around the invention of dirt, I've always needed her to get dressed out of site or she'd never get finished. When dating someone, back around the invention of dirt, I’ve always needed her to get dressed out of site or she’d never get finished.

]]> By: Ibid http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9077 Ibid Wed, 27 Sep 2006 16:02:22 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9077 site = sight site = sight

]]> By: djflowerz http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9082 djflowerz Wed, 27 Sep 2006 19:22:12 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9082 Chaco, your approach is too complicated and open to misinterpretation. If you pull away without explanation or if you make excuses and put the woman in the position of pushing for contact she is likely to freak out and then things will really be ruined. Just be honest and straight-forward with her while remembering to focus on the positive. Tell her that you are digging her and see lots of potential but want to make sure things don't overheat and fizzle. Say that you need a bit more space and time in between your contact, at least while things are still new, both for your own sake and her's for the benefit of the relationship. Be firm about doing non-sex dates and activities and meet each other's friends, so that the physical intimacy does not outpace the emotional intimacy. Chaco, your approach is too complicated and open to misinterpretation. If you pull away without explanation or if you make excuses and put the woman in the position of pushing for contact she is likely to freak out and then things will really be ruined. Just be honest and straight-forward with her while remembering to focus on the positive. Tell her that you are digging her and see lots of potential but want to make sure things don’t overheat and fizzle. Say that you need a bit more space and time in between your contact, at least while things are still new, both for your own sake and her’s for the benefit of the relationship. Be firm about doing non-sex dates and activities and meet each other’s friends, so that the physical intimacy does not outpace the emotional intimacy.

]]> By: saturn8isgreat http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9133 saturn8isgreat Thu, 28 Sep 2006 10:53:43 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9133 Very grown-up of you djflowerz. I couldn't have said it better myself. Very grown-up of you djflowerz. I couldn’t have said it better myself.

]]> By: DC Bachelor » INTRODUCING CHACO http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9807 DC Bachelor » INTRODUCING CHACO Wed, 18 Oct 2006 02:38:24 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/09/sleepover-time#comment-9807 [...] Sleepover time: I believe firmly that the kiss of death in a relationship is “too much, too soon.” When it’s too much too, too soon, the girl can go from “wow this is great!” to “wow…I need a break” very quickly, and the momentum can be lost just like that. You don’t want that kind of negative vibe in your relationship until you have built a solid foundation. [...] […] Sleepover time: I believe firmly that the kiss of death in a relationship is “too much, too soon.” When it’s too much too, too soon, the girl can go from “wow this is great!” to “wow…I need a break” very quickly, and the momentum can be lost just like that. You don’t want that kind of negative vibe in your relationship until you have built a solid foundation. […]

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