Magic man
ara writes,
i met a very handsome performer at a club last week; he went out of his way to talk to me. he gave me his card after doing a cool trick, and told me to come back sometime to see his show. i told him i could cook him dinner if he explained how he did the cool trick. i gave him my card. a few days later, i called him to see if he could get me into this exclusive club we met at that is invitation only. he asked about the dinner invitation i had issued, and we made plans for him to come to my house for dinner the next night, fri night. i made a gourmet 4 course meal, we had lots of wine- he kissed me, we made out, had great conversations, he did more tricks, we listened to music, walked around the neighborhood, made out some more- we had great chemistry and i thought we had a good time. 9 hours later, at 5am, he rubbed my shoulders and asked if we should call it a night. i said i could not believe it was 5am, and sure. he complimented me, saying i looked like a princess. i asked him to text me when he got home, and he did- again complimenting me.
that was saturday at 5am. its wed evening 5pm, and i have not heard from him since. why would he stay 9 hours with me if he does not like me? was he just waiting for me to sleep with him (which i did not)? should i call him? i thought we had a good time, i thought we had chemistry and were intensely attracted to each other- we had great conversations… i don’t know why i have not heard from him. any ideas on why not, and what i should do?
DCB says,
It appears that he just wanted to have sex with you. When he didn’t get it after your marathon date, he figured he’d cut his losses — especially since, judging from your description of him, he has a lot of girls knocking down his door. He doesn’t feel the emotional connection that you do. This is normal so don’t take it personally. Forget about him and don’t you dare make contact: there is nothing you can do that will make him want you more. He knows you like him and he knows how to contact you. While I doubt he will contact you, the last thing you want to do is contact him and appear desperate.
Kathryn says,
Yeah, that’s not good. If you were a good girlfriend I’d tell you to cross your fingers but not hold your breath, if you catch my drift. And if you hadn’t heard from him by Friday, I’d say no way you ever will. He seems to have decided to get as much out of the one night as he possibly could, and he did: gourmet meal, making out, conversation, wine… But it also seems he didn’t find anything he wanted more of. Sorry darlin’. Remember it as one magical night and move on to the next.
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