I am a single black professional male in DC aged 23, i have been single all my life and i have never had a kiss in my life. I have recently been trying to get out more often because i am looking for a girl(no race preference) i can settle down with but i have no game or strategy to go about this issues.Can you guys give me any advice on how to go about this?
Kathryn says,
I’m mostly going to defer to Roosh on this one. After all, he’s the one writing the book on game. Literally.
My best advice to you would be to do your best not to stress over this, or consider it a liability. At first, you may want to try meeting younger women, or women through your church - women who may be a little less experienced - in order not to feel inadequate or intimidated. As for what to do with these women… Roosh?
Roosh says,
These open-ended questions go beyond the scope of this blog, but I will say that you need to think baby steps. And by baby-steps I mean years of failure and rejection until you get this shit handled. Read what I wrote for Tight Game Week and then read Tony’s Lay Guide. Check back in six months.
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I definitely understand exactly what you are talking about and where you are coming from.
You feel completely overwhelmed by the magnitude of the journey ahead of you and have no idea how to get started. You feel that everyone else is playing by a completely different set of rules that you seem to have missed the briefing on. You *cannot* change who you are, so do not try - it will not get you what you want.
I would be a little cautious about ‘finding a girl you can settle down with’. Work on first things first.
The thing you say about trying to ‘get out more often’ is good… but let’s face it, with guys like Roosh out there running their tight game (and the girls running *their* tight game ) you will probably get eaten completely alive and have no idea what is going on.
You’ve got to let yourself get comfortable with someone… and it’s hard to do that. Expand your social circle with activities that do not include typical ‘game’ activities and you’ll be a lot better off. Stay away from the things like kickball, etc unless you think you can pull it off (I certainly can’t).
Absolve yourself of the notion that it will be ’special’ or ‘awesome’ and you’ll start being a lot more relaxed about it - because it probably won’t be. You *will* remember it, though … so just try not to make it too regrettable.
What did I do? I finally ended up letting myself go a little bit into a situation that I knew would not be the love of my life… and that took a lot of pressure off of what happened.
It is absolutely not a liability - it is part of who you are and what makes you you.
You should try to get to know women on a friends basis just to get more comfortable talking to them. Also, get yourself on match.com and go out on a bunch of dates– if will be good for your ego and will be good practice.
Comment by jg on 11/28/06.
Good practice, maybe. Good for the ego… the few women who don’t reject you based on your picture and description get to reject you in person. But I’m angry and bitter so ignore me. Your results may vary. Consult your doctor before listening to Ibid. In rare cases Ibid’s advice has resulted in serious heart complications. Pregnant women should not come in contact with Ibid’s advice.
Well we all have to learn how to handle rejection– its not fun but its part of dating. The more people you go out with, the less it will matter to you because you will have other people to focus on.
