Comments on: 23-year-old virgin http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin "but seriously, when should i call?" Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:35:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: Ibid http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11189 Ibid Tue, 28 Nov 2006 15:57:03 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11189 "years of failure and rejection" Makes you wonder what your incentive for bothering is, doesn't it? “years of failure and rejection”
Makes you wonder what your incentive for bothering is, doesn’t it?

]]> By: aw http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11190 aw Tue, 28 Nov 2006 16:57:55 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11190 I definitely understand exactly what you are talking about and where you are coming from. You feel completely overwhelmed by the magnitude of the journey ahead of you and have no idea how to get started. You feel that everyone else is playing by a completely different set of rules that you seem to have missed the briefing on. You *cannot* change who you are, so do not try - it will not get you what you want. I would be a little cautious about 'finding a girl you can settle down with'. Work on first things first. The thing you say about trying to 'get out more often' is good... but let's face it, with guys like Roosh out there running their tight game (and the girls running *their* tight game ) you will probably get eaten completely alive and have no idea what is going on. You've got to let yourself get comfortable with someone... and it's hard to do that. Expand your social circle with activities that do not include typical 'game' activities and you'll be a lot better off. Stay away from the things like kickball, etc unless you think you can pull it off (I certainly can't). Absolve yourself of the notion that it will be 'special' or 'awesome' and you'll start being a lot more relaxed about it - because it probably won't be. You *will* remember it, though ... so just try not to make it too regrettable. What did I do? I finally ended up letting myself go a little bit into a situation that I knew would not be the love of my life... and that took a lot of pressure off of what happened. It is absolutely not a liability - it is part of who you are and what makes you you. I definitely understand exactly what you are talking about and where you are coming from.

You feel completely overwhelmed by the magnitude of the journey ahead of you and have no idea how to get started. You feel that everyone else is playing by a completely different set of rules that you seem to have missed the briefing on. You *cannot* change who you are, so do not try - it will not get you what you want.

I would be a little cautious about ‘finding a girl you can settle down with’. Work on first things first.

The thing you say about trying to ‘get out more often’ is good… but let’s face it, with guys like Roosh out there running their tight game (and the girls running *their* tight game ) you will probably get eaten completely alive and have no idea what is going on.

You’ve got to let yourself get comfortable with someone… and it’s hard to do that. Expand your social circle with activities that do not include typical ‘game’ activities and you’ll be a lot better off. Stay away from the things like kickball, etc unless you think you can pull it off (I certainly can’t).

Absolve yourself of the notion that it will be ’special’ or ‘awesome’ and you’ll start being a lot more relaxed about it - because it probably won’t be. You *will* remember it, though … so just try not to make it too regrettable.

What did I do? I finally ended up letting myself go a little bit into a situation that I knew would not be the love of my life… and that took a lot of pressure off of what happened.

It is absolutely not a liability - it is part of who you are and what makes you you.

]]> By: jg http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11191 jg Tue, 28 Nov 2006 17:42:59 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11191 You should try to get to know women on a friends basis just to get more comfortable talking to them. Also, get yourself on match.com and go out on a bunch of dates-- if will be good for your ego and will be good practice. You should try to get to know women on a friends basis just to get more comfortable talking to them. Also, get yourself on match.com and go out on a bunch of dates– if will be good for your ego and will be good practice.

]]> By: Ibid http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11192 Ibid Tue, 28 Nov 2006 17:50:59 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11192 Good practice, maybe. Good for the ego... the few women who don't reject you based on your picture and description get to reject you in person. But I'm angry and bitter so ignore me. Your results may vary. Consult your doctor before listening to Ibid. In rare cases Ibid's advice has resulted in serious heart complications. Pregnant women should not come in contact with Ibid's advice. Good practice, maybe. Good for the ego… the few women who don’t reject you based on your picture and description get to reject you in person. But I’m angry and bitter so ignore me. Your results may vary. Consult your doctor before listening to Ibid. In rare cases Ibid’s advice has resulted in serious heart complications. Pregnant women should not come in contact with Ibid’s advice.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11193 Anonymous Tue, 28 Nov 2006 18:19:41 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11193 It has been determined that aw is a hoax, right? It has been determined that aw is a hoax, right?

]]> By: jg http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11200 jg Tue, 28 Nov 2006 19:49:41 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11200 Well we all have to learn how to handle rejection-- its not fun but its part of dating. The more people you go out with, the less it will matter to you because you will have other people to focus on. Well we all have to learn how to handle rejection– its not fun but its part of dating. The more people you go out with, the less it will matter to you because you will have other people to focus on.

]]> By: Steve Lurkel http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11210 Steve Lurkel Wed, 29 Nov 2006 03:18:53 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/23-year-old-virgin#comment-11210 Also, go to Brasil. Also, go to Brasil.

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