Comments on: I don’t know what I want, but maybe FDDC knows http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1 "but seriously, when should i call?" Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:42:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: Ibid http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10681 Ibid Tue, 14 Nov 2006 14:47:46 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10681 Two ways to read his comments. 1) Face value. He doesn't want to date anyone. 2) He doesn't know anyone he wants to date. If he met someone that he clicked with he'd want to date her. In either case he's not dating you. You tried giving him an ultimatum and it backfired. Instead of him accepting your pace for the relationship you lost him. Move on. Two ways to read his comments.

1) Face value. He doesn’t want to date anyone.
2) He doesn’t know anyone he wants to date. If he met someone that he clicked with he’d want to date her.

In either case he’s not dating you. You tried giving him an ultimatum and it backfired. Instead of him accepting your pace for the relationship you lost him. Move on.

]]> By: poppy girl http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10682 poppy girl Tue, 14 Nov 2006 15:26:29 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10682 The fact that you have repeatedly said you don't see yourself with him and are still considering pursuing something with him makes me think you are missing being in a relationship more than being with this guy. Trust me, when you find a new guy who's as into dating you as much as you are him, you will wonder why the hell you wrote into FDDC. You'll laugh at your own confusion. BTW - this guy sounds like a good guy. He's been totally straight forward w/ not wanting to date you or anyone. He could have strung you along w/ a lot of false promises, but he didn't. Kudos to him. And to you, for realizing it wasn't going where you wanted it to go. Trust your first instincts that led to the initial breakup. If you can be friends but still pursue other men - then do so. But if you are having trouble moving on, you may have let the friendship go. The fact that you have repeatedly said you don’t see yourself with him and are still considering pursuing something with him makes me think you are missing being in a relationship more than being with this guy. Trust me, when you find a new guy who’s as into dating you as much as you are him, you will wonder why the hell you wrote into FDDC. You’ll laugh at your own confusion.

BTW - this guy sounds like a good guy. He’s been totally straight forward w/ not wanting to date you or anyone. He could have strung you along w/ a lot of false promises, but he didn’t. Kudos to him. And to you, for realizing it wasn’t going where you wanted it to go. Trust your first instincts that led to the initial breakup. If you can be friends but still pursue other men - then do so. But if you are having trouble moving on, you may have let the friendship go.

]]> By: La di da http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10683 La di da Tue, 14 Nov 2006 15:31:40 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10683 Damn Ibid, way to stick it to the man. That was so right on, it hurt.I wish I had an update for y'all but situation is pretty much the same... it's easy to say move on, but how does one really move on of his own accord? (sans online dating) I want step by step instructions! Damn Ibid, way to stick it to the man. That was so right on, it hurt.I wish I had an update for y’all but situation is pretty much the same… it’s easy to say move on, but how does one really move on of his own accord? (sans online dating) I want step by step instructions!

]]> By: Skyshocker http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10684 Skyshocker Tue, 14 Nov 2006 15:32:13 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10684 Bottom line you can't imagine spending the rest of your life with him, it's time to move on. Continuing such a relationship wastes time and may squander a potential relationship with whom you can see spending the rest of your life. Waste not, want not. Bottom line you can’t imagine spending the rest of your life with him, it’s time to move on.

Continuing such a relationship wastes time and may squander a potential relationship with whom you can see spending the rest of your life. Waste not, want not.

]]> By: Ibid http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10685 Ibid Tue, 14 Nov 2006 15:38:17 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10685 Moving on: a step-by-step guide 1) Break up 2) Let time pass without this person in your life Dating someone else can help but only if you like this new person and aren't just using him as some imaginary revenge on the ex. Moving on: a step-by-step guide

1) Break up
2) Let time pass without this person in your life

Dating someone else can help but only if you like this new person and aren’t just using him as some imaginary revenge on the ex.

]]> By: woah http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10691 woah Tue, 14 Nov 2006 19:31:32 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10691 K&D's advice was spot on, but so was Ibid's. Whuut? K&D’s advice was spot on, but so was Ibid’s. Whuut?

]]> By: hey La di da http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10692 hey La di da Tue, 14 Nov 2006 19:32:30 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10692 The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else..

]]> By: La di da http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10695 La di da Tue, 14 Nov 2006 20:37:53 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10695 The best part of all your comments is that not one of you think I should hold out and try to make it work. I guess most of me knows it is not something worth pursuing, but a little part of me wondered if my dumper's remorse was worth looking into. Glad to see it wasn't! DCB- try to steer yourself back to heterosexuality, I need someone to get under. The best part of all your comments is that not one of you think I should hold out and try to make it work. I guess most of me knows it is not something worth pursuing, but a little part of me wondered if my dumper’s remorse was worth looking into. Glad to see it wasn’t! DCB- try to steer yourself back to heterosexuality, I need someone to get under.

]]> By: quinn http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10699 quinn Tue, 14 Nov 2006 21:47:51 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10699 It all sounds just a bit too complicated, too much back and forth, too much uncertainty. When you find someone you like, you know it and there are no questions. None of this hem-hawing. True, there might be "something" there between you two...but is it enough to push you (or him for that matter) towards a romantic relationship with one another? As an unbiased outsider, I say no. If you enjoy his company, and he yours, keep on being friends. It all sounds just a bit too complicated, too much back and forth, too much uncertainty. When you find someone you like, you know it and there are no questions. None of this hem-hawing. True, there might be “something” there between you two…but is it enough to push you (or him for that matter) towards a romantic relationship with one another? As an unbiased outsider, I say no. If you enjoy his company, and he yours, keep on being friends.

]]> By: Chaco http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10703 Chaco Wed, 15 Nov 2006 00:36:03 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10703 Hahaha...DCB, there is truely no other dating advice guru like you. Hahaha…DCB, there is truely no other dating advice guru like you.

]]> By: saturn8isgreat http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10725 saturn8isgreat Wed, 15 Nov 2006 17:09:20 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/good-enough-for-now-1#comment-10725 Step by step instructions to moving on: 1) take cell phone out of purse 2) delete guys # from phone 3) open e-mail account 4) set e-mail account to block all guy's emails 5) get a hobby Step by step instructions to moving on:

1) take cell phone out of purse
2) delete guys # from phone
3) open e-mail account
4) set e-mail account to block all guy’s emails
5) get a hobby

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