Comments on: Lead on http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/lead-on "but seriously, when should i call?" Thu, 09 Sep 2010 14:52:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: Ibid http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/lead-on#comment-10448 Ibid Mon, 06 Nov 2006 16:37:51 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/lead-on#comment-10448 You could always ask him. Could be that he actually likes you as a person and wants to hang out, but it does sound like he was asking you out again. Could be that the fact that you're dating someone else came as a shock and he needed time to fallback and regroup. Having done that he realized that he wouldn't have even been at dinner with you if he wasn't still in the running. The text message is his way of saying he's not ready to give you up that easy. You could always ask him.

Could be that he actually likes you as a person and wants to hang out, but it does sound like he was asking you out again.
Could be that the fact that you’re dating someone else came as a shock and he needed time to fallback and regroup. Having done that he realized that he wouldn’t have even been at dinner with you if he wasn’t still in the running. The text message is his way of saying he’s not ready to give you up that easy.

]]> By: Beamtendave http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/lead-on#comment-10453 Beamtendave Mon, 06 Nov 2006 21:17:11 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/lead-on#comment-10453 In the future, go out for drinks after work instead of dinner. That's what probably threw him off--the nice dinner with the girl he had a history with, then the "oh, wait, BTW..." at the end. You had the right intention, just bad timing. His text message could mean anything, really. Maybe he wants to be friends. Maybe he wants to see just how serious you are about this other guy (guessing that if you agree to another date, it's not so serious). Maybe he just wants someone to round out his happy hour crew. Just decide what you want before you hang out with him again. In the future, go out for drinks after work instead of dinner. That’s what probably threw him off–the nice dinner with the girl he had a history with, then the “oh, wait, BTW…” at the end. You had the right intention, just bad timing. His text message could mean anything, really. Maybe he wants to be friends. Maybe he wants to see just how serious you are about this other guy (guessing that if you agree to another date, it’s not so serious). Maybe he just wants someone to round out his happy hour crew. Just decide what you want before you hang out with him again.

]]> By: me http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/lead-on#comment-10454 me Mon, 06 Nov 2006 23:22:27 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/lead-on#comment-10454 Once again DCB demonstrates the lengths he will go to to tell a woman that a guy just wants to use her for sex. I don't think most people would agree that the facts really support his conclusion. It sounds like he thinks he is still in the running and is going to continue pursuing you-- his true intentions are anybody's guess. He could be interested in pursuing you romantically-- he could just be out for sex. He could just like a good challenge. Who knows. What is obvious is that you definetely lead him own. Once again DCB demonstrates the lengths he will go to to tell a woman that a guy just wants to use her for sex. I don’t think most people would agree that the facts really support his conclusion. It sounds like he thinks he is still in the running and is going to continue pursuing you– his true intentions are anybody’s guess. He could be interested in pursuing you romantically– he could just be out for sex. He could just like a good challenge. Who knows. What is obvious is that you definetely lead him own.

]]> By: Two At A Time? http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/lead-on#comment-10455 Two At A Time? Mon, 06 Nov 2006 23:32:52 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/lead-on#comment-10455 Do you think I led him on? I was trying to prevent that awkward moment but my message got lost in cyberspace. I felt bad about it. And DCB, the sex conversation was pretty short. Like, Me: "No, I don't think it's a good idea for you to come up to my place." Him: "OK." I was leaving. Do you think I led him on? I was trying to prevent that awkward moment but my message got lost in cyberspace. I felt bad about it. And DCB, the sex conversation was pretty short. Like, Me: “No, I don’t think it’s a good idea for you to come up to my place.” Him: “OK.” I was leaving.

]]> By: paully http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/lead-on#comment-10462 paully Tue, 07 Nov 2006 07:09:35 +0000 http://www.firstdatedc.com/2006/11/lead-on#comment-10462 Maybe when you graduate from calling them "boys" you'll graduate from your highschool-esque outlook. Then you'll understand that mens' "complicated behavior" is actually them just trying to trick you into giving you a solid rodgering without expending much effort. Who paid for dinner? How were you acting at dinner? Were you playing with your hair and making big facial expressions? ps. Guys dont like it when girls date are dating someone else. If he called you back after knowing this, it's only for one reason. Go out with him again and see if he invites you out to go drinking. Maybe when you graduate from calling them “boys” you’ll graduate from your highschool-esque outlook. Then you’ll understand that mens’ “complicated behavior” is actually them just trying to trick you into giving you a solid rodgering without expending much effort. Who paid for dinner? How were you acting at dinner? Were you playing with your hair and making big facial expressions?

ps. Guys dont like it when girls date are dating someone else. If he called you back after knowing this, it’s only for one reason. Go out with him again and see if he invites you out to go drinking.

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