There are only so many ways I can tell a girl that a guy isn’t into them. When starting this blog I never thought 85% of the questions would come from women. Because my main skill is in helping men, I know that my typical “move on” advice to women was probably not all that helpful to them. When the goal of a woman is to find one man to nest with, they don’t want to hear it when you tell them to find another guy. In that respect, I failed.
From working with Kathryn, I clearly see how tough dating is for people our age. Because of this there is an industry composed of dating books, seminars and workshops, and as long as men and women need to physically mate to continue the species, there will always be a demand for dating advice. While we can’t confirm if our advice helped bring two people together, I think we helped the human race more than not.
My final advice is for everyone still working on that one crush. I know it is fun to have a project, to work on that one guy or girl you really like. But it never fails that the more you really like them, the less chance you will get with them. Liking a person a lot before intimacy occurs is a good sign that they their value is considerably higher than yours. In other words, they can do better. It is not until I stopped valuing women that things fell into place for me.
Perhaps if we only answered one question a week could we keep it going and stay fresh, but the daily nature of the blog doomed us from the start.
Kathryn says,
Boy, did I love this site. What a great idea: he said/she said advice from Roosh, the man I affectionately refer to as my dick kid brother, and me, old lady looking for love. How could we go wrong? And for a while, it seemed like we might actually be helping people. Or at least entertaining them.
But lately, when I’m reading the new questions that come in, I find myself thinking we’ve already answered them. I search for the questions in old posts, certain that the person must have submitted twice, but never find them. I’ve come to the slow realization that everyone just has the same problem, over and over, in different terms but agonizingly similar patterns. And I’ve started to dread answering their questions. How many times can I say he doesn’t like you, you don’t like him, she is playing you for a fool, or he’s a lying, heartless bastard? I think I’ve exhausted my supply of “it’s not working and you should recognize it” euphemisms, both kind and unkind. So it’s time to stop.
To everyone whose questions we’re leaving unanswered, I apologize. I encourage you to read the archives - you’re bound to find something you can apply to your own situation.
And to everyone else, thank you for eleven months of helping me feel like I’m not quite as dumb about relationships as I once thought. Some of you are way dumber.
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Awww…I hate goodbyes. Can’t we just call it a see ya later? Please?
Who am I to write should I ever require dating tips and/or advice? Not Grateful Dating-style advice, but the suck-it-up, ugly truth that we all sometimes need to hear? No one has done it better than you two Smarties.
“Liking a person a lot before intimacy occurs is a good sign that their value is considerably higher than yours. In other words, they can do better. It is not until I stopped valuing women that things fell into place for me.”
This is so fucking true. Best advice you’ve given and one of the pillars of success in getting women.
Comment by mhm on 12/01/06.
A shame to see the site end, but you’re both dead on right. only so many times you can tell people to stop being stupid, get some self esteem, and move on. That being said, well job on the 11 month run, you two never fail to entertain and are a great combo!
Comment by GoldenJew on 12/01/06.
Me and kathryn are currently in negotiations with ibid to executive produce his own dating blog
Comment by Roosh on 12/01/06.
Great job guys. FDCC had its own voice, provided pragmatic advice, and was fun to read.
Classy move to quit while you’re on top. Although I will miss reading this website, you two certainly had some wonderful advice and without question helped a number of other people.
Comment by Corncob on 12/01/06.
Thanks for helping me procrastinate on my thesis all these months. It was entertaining and educational.
Comment by Monty on 12/01/06.
I have enjoyed the post. Thank you for the entertainment/advise column.It has made so many workd days a lot less painful.
Thanks for all the good times. It was a great way to connect with other daters out there, lost and alone in the wilderness. I will be missing my daily dose of dysfunction.
